As a social worker, I've had the privilege to speak with many people with dementia as well as their families about end-of-life care. Some people have everything planned and written out, and have distributed copies of their directives to their physician, attorney and family members. Others have not even considered what they want the medical community to do if their health significantly declines. This may be because it's uncomfortable and hard to think about, they're already overwhelmed with daily decisions, or they're not even aware of the different choices they have.
One of the decisions people face when they're admitted into a hospital or a health facility such as a nursing home is whether or not to receive CPR if their heart stops beating or they stop breathing. CPR (cardiopulmonary resuscitation) can be a life-saving technique and is the default position of medical personnel. In other words, everything will be done to keep someone alive unless there is a directive otherwise. Those who opt to forgo CPR may choose a DNR (do not resuscitate) order.
For someone who's younger and healthy, and then suddenly goes into cardiac arrest, CPR can sometimes restart their heart and eventually may lead to a full recovery. For others, however, such as people who have a chronic condition, are medically frail or elderly, CPR is frequently ineffective. It can also lead to invasive procedures such as intubation and being hooked up to a ventilator with little hope of being successfully removed. The statistics are stark when it comes to describing the chance of survival for people in these circumstances.
During the decision-making process, I've heard the question, "Am I giving up on my loved one if I don't choose CPR? " In response, I've often reassured people that choosing a DNR order is vastly different than giving up on their family member; it simply may allow for a more peaceful death. I also always want them to know that whatever they choose, we will do everything we can to honor their wishes.
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Have you been in the situation where you've chosen CPR or a DNR order for a loved one with dementia? If so, what was was helpful to you in your decision?